Love: From Passion To Compassion

If two people are really in love,then not only foreplay but afterplay also will be there.If two persons are not in love then sex will happen and they will go to sleep,there will be no afterplay.Foreplay will not even be there,and afterplay is impossible,because what is the use?The thing has happened,the end has been achieved. Rape is in the mind. 


The sex center knows only rape,it is the center of aggression.That’s why the military doesn’t allow sex for soldiers,because if they have sex relationships they cannot be good fighters.The aggression moves through the sex center.If sex is allowed and if a soldier is living with his wife or with his beloved,he will not feel like fighting on the battleground!


This is one of the reasons why American soldiers are defeated wherever their girls follow them.They cannot be aggressive because the center of aggression is sex.If sex is allowed, aggression flows out of you and then you don’t feel like fighting!So the soldiers have to be prohibited from engaging in sex,they must suppress their sexual energy which will then accumulate and become aggression.Rather than entering a woman’s body, they can enter anyone's body with a bullet.But it is the same thing – the entry!Your bullets,your knives,your guns,are just phallic symbols – to enter the other’s body,to destroy.


The coaches of athletes who participates in the Olympics tell them,"Don’t have sex at least for two weeks before" Why?Because if you have sex you will not be a good runner!From where will you get the aggression to fight,run and compete?All religions all over the world – almost all,except for one wonderful sect,Tantra,being an exception,have told their monks to be celibate,because they think that religion is also a sort of struggle.You have to fight with yourself,so retain the aggressive energy and fight with yourself !

Sex can easily become violence because it is passion,it is rape.Love,the heart center or the love center,is totally different.It is nonviolent,it is passive,not even active.It can come to you like a very silent perfume,and that too when you invite.That’s why despite the presence of great beings like Krishna,Buddha or Jesus,who brims with lots of love,some of us cannot feel their love,because we can feel love only when it is too violent,in its brute and aggressive form.We have become addicted to violence.And their love is so silent.It showers on us all the time but we cannot feel it because we have become so insensitive.Only when someone attacks do we start feeling.


The heart center is not the center of passion,but is the center of compassion.And compassion is absolutely different from passion,just the opposite.It is non-aggressive energy,moving without any noise,but you have to become very sensitive to feel it.So only very sensitive people can become attracted to Buddha,because only very sensitive people can feel that love is flowing from him.If you are asking for strong doses of passion,then Buddha will just look dead;nothing is coming out of him.

Remember this: passion has to be transformed into compassion,only then will you move from the sex center to the heart center.Now even your heart has to follow your sex center,which is the higher following the lower,with compassion,its other way around,your sex center will follow the love center,the heart center – the lower following the higher.And this should be the order of your being – always the lower following the higher.Then the lower becomes totally different,the quality changes :-) " 


source : Vedanta: Seven Steps to Samadhi by Osho 


With love and passion, 
Amreish Siman